Loosening Worry’s Hold on an Anxious Child


JSSA’s Child and Family Department

Anxiety is a natural response to ambiguity in life, even in childhood and adolescence. And while a bit of anxiety has been shown to be helpful in encouraging motivation, many children and teens experience an unhealthy level of anxiety.

The Anxiety Disorders Association of America reports that anxiety disorders affect one in eight children. For these young people, persistent worrying can become a distressing part of every day.

Anxious children become overloaded with thoughts of “what-ifs” and worst-case scenarios. Their unrelenting doubts and fears can have many negative effects – draining energy, dramatically raising stress levels, and interfering with relationships and daily activities. Children’s anxiety can also have long-term effects including trouble sleeping and eating, physical pains, and withdrawal from loved ones.

Some anxiety disorders tend to emerge at certain stages of development. Separation anxiety and specific phobias can be more common in children ages 6-9. Generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety disorder may surface more often in middle childhood and adolescence. In the teen years, anxious young people often struggle simultaneously with depression.

What Parents Can Do

Parents can help their children by watching for potential signs of child or adolescent anxiety such as:

  • Consistent and excessive worry about school, friends, following rules, or approval of teachers and parents
  • Physical complaints including stomachaches, muscle tension, or fatigue with no medical cause
  • Persistent or unreasonable fears and inability to stop worrying despite reassurances from others
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Low self-esteem and refusal to take risks
  • Withdrawal from friends or family and distress over social situations with unfamiliar people
  • Repeated “attacks” of sudden, intense fear or discomfort which may include shortness of breath or a racing heart

Parents can take action by seeking help from a professional if they believe a child or teenager is grappling with anxiety. Professionals can teach children ways to manage their worries, provide support, address underlying issues contributing to anxiety, and suggest more effective ways to think and act in anxiety-producing situations. Medication may be part of the treatment, too.

Mental health professionals can also work with parents on helping their children and teens manage their anxiety. For example, at home, parents can take steps to create a supportive atmosphere. Staying calm when your child becomes anxious can make a difference. Keeping a consistent routine is equally important. So is assuring that the child eats a healthy diet, gets regular exercise and adequate sleep.

Show flexibility by modifying expectations of the child during stressful periods and by planning for transitions, even daily ones such as preparing for school in the morning. Help a child assess and solve problems by talking out options and choosing the best one. Encourage your child by recognizing small accomplishments on the path to controlling anxiety.

The more parents know about anxiety’s symptoms, effects and treatments, the better prepared they will be to guide their children toward managing this treatable condition. JSSA professionals are experienced in advising and supporting families on this and many other children’s issues.


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