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Family Member Hoarding Support

Are you concerned about the safety and well-being of a family member who collects excessively? Do you feel the stress of a declining relationship due to are not alone.

What is hoarding?
Hoarding is a mental illness exhibited through excessive acquiring and failure to discard large numbers of possessions that may appear useless or of limited value to an onlooker.

What are the impacts of hoarding?
Relationships between those that hoard and those who care for them can be complicated and emotionally draining. Families may think the reason behind the hoarding is laziness, a desire to be difficult or just simply that the hoarder doesn't care. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Family and friends of those who hoard are JSSA’s focus.

How can JSSA help?
JSSA offers the first support group in the metro DC area specifically for family members and close friends of people that hoard.
JSSA offers telephone support, periodic email support and a monthly support group.

For more information, please contact Beth Shapiro, LCSW-C, at 301.816.2665 or

What are some caregiver coping strategies for someone who hoards?
The following tips can help cope with the emotional rollercoaster of caring for someone who hoards:

  • Adjust your expectations. If you expect that the space will be cleared out because you will help, your expectations may be too high. Your primary focus should be on making the areas around the stove, the bathroom and the egress safe.
  • Concentrate on quality time together. Find enjoyable activities completely unrelated to the hoarding – going for walks, cooking a favorite recipe, or attending a performance, for example.
  • Differentiate between your feelings and your loved one’s feelings. You may be the one who longs to purge excess objects. But real change can only occur if the desire comes from the person who hoards.
  • Leave cleanup to professional organizers. If an adversarial or unresolvable situation arises, it happens outside the family.
  • Keep a journal of your feelings. This will relieve stress, help you let go of negative feelings and acknowledge how hoarding interferes with your life.  
  • Read more JSSA Family Hoarding Support Tips and Strategies

Hoarding Resource Books

  1. Buried in Treasures: Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding by David F. Tolin, Randy O. Frost, Gail Steketee
  2. Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding and Compulsive Acquiring by Michael Thompkins and Tamara Hartl
  3. Overcoming Compulsive Hoarding: Why You Save and How You Can Stop by Fugen Neziroglu, Jerome Bubrick, and Jose A. Yaryura-Tobias
  4. Compulsive Hoarding and Acquiring: Therapist Guide & Workbook by Gail Steketee and Randy O. Frost
  5. What Every Professional Organizer Needs to Know About Hoarding by Judith Kolberg
  6. Conquering Chronic Disorganization by Judith Kolberg
  7. Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things by Randy O. Frost and Gail Steketee

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